the pursuit of beauty*

I love beauty just as much as the next girl. But what I find attractive is not the typical “all-American” beauty. Give me interesting … that is true beauty.

Unfortunately, this hasn’t been the story of my entire life. I was a young girl obsessed with fashion magazines and make-over shows, just like most of my generation. It has taken me years to come to the realization that beauty is not just what is plastered all over magazines and television.

There is a video of Dustin Hoffman that has been circulating all over Facebook. In it he ponders on how many interesting women he missed out on knowing because of the standard of beauty in our culture.

I’ve watched it several times (and have gotten choked up each and every time … I just want to reach through the screen and give that man a hug). It has got me thinking … In our everyday lives, in our daily routines, what do we give up in the pursuit of “beauty”?

In the 25 minutes it takes me to put on a full face of make up each weekday morning, what am I giving up? What am I missing out on? I could spend that 25 minutes sitting on the deck enjoying the early morning sunshine. I could spend that extra 25 minutes sleeping, for goodness sake! A minimal amount of make-up will take me 5 minutes, tops. 20 minutes of extra time each day, what a joy that would be …

How many relationships have I missed out on? Even as a woman who is attracted to the opposite sex, I still pay attention to a beautiful woman. Am I just as guilty as everyone else on walking by the interesting woman to be closer to the beautiful one …

what are you giving up in the name of beauty, and at the end of the day, is it worth it?